Life’s little secret is we are ALL obsessed with grief, because someone around us is dying a little or a lot every day (including us). There are just those of us that turn and look at grief square in the face and try to accept that it’s here to stay…and those of us who distract ourselves from the inevitable. What an honor to your sister that she lived a life that is missed and continues to hold court in your perfect, broken heart. ❤️❤️
This is so great. I too am obsessed with grief and grief writing. Some of your favorite grief memoirs are mine, too. In a lot of ways I think it is an obsession invested in our futures, because we will all grief again, if we're lucky.
Okay I'm writing down that last sentence so I can remember it forever. Some of the conversations around grief on your show (Hanif! Kiese!) have been earth shifting for me and that is in large part thanks to your care and attention to grief as a topic worth obsessing over. Thank you.
This is so beautiful. I have been lucky enough in my life to not really have experienced big grief until the last three years or so, and lately I have been experiencing it a lot in rapid succession. It's a thing I wish we talked about more because I feel like, at 32, I should know how to better navigate it, but I find it so hard to understand and grapple with. And I will be reading all of these books.
I feel this so much, Cassie, thank you. I don’t know how to navigate it all and the truth is none of us does but maybe if we talked about it more we could take better care of each other. Thank you for your words and thank you for reading ❤️
I am also obsessed with grief and grief memoirs, but more than that I very much love romance with grief. I regularly think about how I want to live so I can be grieved the way I would ( or have) grieve those closest to me
That is so beautiful, Sharda. Even knowing you mostly through the internet I can tell you live that way. And yes! Grief is often done so well in romance novels. Yet another reminder why the genre is more expansive than most realize.
Thank you, Rosamund, for being so present for what is. I can’t remember from whom I first heard about the dance of grief and gratitude, that we grieve for that which has blessed our lives, and are deeply grateful for that which we will grieve when lost. And sometimes we are swamped as the two entangle. Loving you.
How powerful to have someone tell you that you’re right, you just won’t be okay. In our world where so many of us have been taught that to be tough is to be stoic and to be unbothered by tragedy, we need to hear this message more often. Things are often not okay. We are often not okay. And yet, that is what makes all of us better than okay - human. Thank you for the love and the care that you show yourself, your loved ones, and all of us. xoxo
Sending love. I'm also obsessed with grief, I think. I have a friend who I can talk about grief with in an unrestrained way and we both find it fascinating, freeing, and heart rending. Grief is part of the human experience. Thanks for sharing this with all of us.
Life’s little secret is we are ALL obsessed with grief, because someone around us is dying a little or a lot every day (including us). There are just those of us that turn and look at grief square in the face and try to accept that it’s here to stay…and those of us who distract ourselves from the inevitable. What an honor to your sister that she lived a life that is missed and continues to hold court in your perfect, broken heart. ❤️❤️
This comment means everything to me. Thank you for reading my words and seeing me and my sister so clearly. I'm the luckiest!!!
This is so great. I too am obsessed with grief and grief writing. Some of your favorite grief memoirs are mine, too. In a lot of ways I think it is an obsession invested in our futures, because we will all grief again, if we're lucky.
Okay I'm writing down that last sentence so I can remember it forever. Some of the conversations around grief on your show (Hanif! Kiese!) have been earth shifting for me and that is in large part thanks to your care and attention to grief as a topic worth obsessing over. Thank you.
When you write it down can you correct grief to grieve? Thanks.
This is so beautiful. I have been lucky enough in my life to not really have experienced big grief until the last three years or so, and lately I have been experiencing it a lot in rapid succession. It's a thing I wish we talked about more because I feel like, at 32, I should know how to better navigate it, but I find it so hard to understand and grapple with. And I will be reading all of these books.
I feel this so much, Cassie, thank you. I don’t know how to navigate it all and the truth is none of us does but maybe if we talked about it more we could take better care of each other. Thank you for your words and thank you for reading ❤️
Oh wow this was just so so beautiful, Rosamond. Thank you for these words. I think being obsessed with grief is proof your heart is huge. 💗💗💗
Oh Laura I think that is exactly right. Thank you for helping me brave. I appreciate you!!!
Thank you for this piece of your heart. 💛
I am also obsessed with grief and grief memoirs, but more than that I very much love romance with grief. I regularly think about how I want to live so I can be grieved the way I would ( or have) grieve those closest to me
That is so beautiful, Sharda. Even knowing you mostly through the internet I can tell you live that way. And yes! Grief is often done so well in romance novels. Yet another reminder why the genre is more expansive than most realize.
Thank you, Rosamund, for being so present for what is. I can’t remember from whom I first heard about the dance of grief and gratitude, that we grieve for that which has blessed our lives, and are deeply grateful for that which we will grieve when lost. And sometimes we are swamped as the two entangle. Loving you.
Oh thank you, Nancy. This is such a beautiful way to put it. I am going to write that down so I remember. Thank you for reading and supporting me!
Thank you for writing this. I've read a number of grief memoirs over the years after losing my mom 11 years ago. I loved Crying in H Mart.
Thank you so much for reading and sharing. Oh yes I loved Crying in H Mart, too!
How powerful to have someone tell you that you’re right, you just won’t be okay. In our world where so many of us have been taught that to be tough is to be stoic and to be unbothered by tragedy, we need to hear this message more often. Things are often not okay. We are often not okay. And yet, that is what makes all of us better than okay - human. Thank you for the love and the care that you show yourself, your loved ones, and all of us. xoxo
Not okay and not alone ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you Henny!! Thank you for these words and for reading and for just being you. I appreciate you!
Rosamond, I’m new to The Stacks community and new to your work but this is so so beautifully said. Thank you for saying it!
Thank you so much for these words and thank you for reading!! Isn’t the stacks community just the greatest?? I feel so lucky to be a part of it.
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Sending love. I'm also obsessed with grief, I think. I have a friend who I can talk about grief with in an unrestrained way and we both find it fascinating, freeing, and heart rending. Grief is part of the human experience. Thanks for sharing this with all of us.